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Feeling useless
a kid from the school on the other side of town committed suicide last night.
today, while driving with my friend before Upward Bound, she told me that he was a close friend of hers. i seriously had no idea what to say to her..
how do you help people cope with something like that?
..especially when you have no idea what it's like to lose someone like that in the same situation..
but every two minutes she would kinda stare off and then just burst out "omg i can't believe he's dead!"
i felt so bad for her, and i felt so useless not know what to say to her..
-Jaeli
What would you say?
-Give all the understanding and love that you can.
-Be there as often as possible
-Listen to them ramble and express their grief
-Don't offer advice, lead them to water but let them drink.
-Don't expect things to go back to normal for many months or years.
-Don't Bring up god
-Don't compare it to anything, like losing a boyfriend or the death of your pet rabbit
-Don't be scared to talk if they want to
Just thought it was relevant, ignore if you want.
...It's hard giving out that type of advice. At least I can cheer her up, if anybody. But it's not her that needs the cheering up...
*stares blankly at the gun on the table*
last modified Jan 7, 2004 at 15:43
Hmm...
*takes gun*
Beanzooka!
*pelts Jesse with beanbags*
Har har har.
*takes gun away and locks it up*
Now no one gets to shoot anyone with the gun! Yay! Everybody all alive.
*picks up gun*
*points it to head*
*bang*
*slump*
A self-sacrafice per se... like Donnie Darko
jesse!! that's not fair!!! we would be reacting the same for along time if that happend to u! honestly, ur seriously starting to scare me now. i've been SCARED to read ur weblogs for like 2 days, and i know no1s forcing me to read them or nethin, but i meen, it's nice to konw what's going on in ur friends lives. yeah we don't no each other all that well, but i'm still worried about u. i was talking to my friend mike about the biggest shock of his life, and he said when his dad told him that his friend *Nathan* committed suicide. that was 5 years ago. even now when he talks about it his face falls, he gets all quiet...itz not a kool feeling. cuz then the conversation topics tend to dissappear. so seriously, don't do nething stupid because we all love you for who you are... we'd miss you
JESSE!!!!!!!!!
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